What does trust mean to you? It’s something that takes forever to gain and only seconds to loose. It’s the bread and butter to all succesful relationships whether it be with the woman you love, the man you love, the GOD you worship, or the self you believe in.
Relationships are particularly sensitive when it comes to trust. Half of us can barely trust ourselves let alone trust another human being. Fact is it is hard to even figure out how to begin to open up and allow anyone to take hold of your trust. We meet people, we date, we spend time together, we grow, and then we trust. So how is it that it takes all of that to get, but all it takes is 1.2 seconds of a bad decision to loose. Sometimes we take each other for granted. We feel like we got each other so no matter what we will always have that person in our corner; nahhh wrong. They may be in your corner, but best believe they may be so far wedged in that corner due to hurt, pain, and resentment, that they may as well be gone. Im sure everyone has heard the reference about trust being like a crumbled piece of paper. Its perfect when its there, but when it gets crumbled it will never be perfect again. Its scary to think that this may really be true.
Trust affects everyone. You may have been the person being trusted or giving the trust, but either way everyone has been affected by trust. Its one of those things that can honestly never be figured out. We can only experiment with different remedies in hopes that it aides in regaining the trust that was gambled away, or that it coats that pain to make it easier to trust someone who lost your trust.
After thinking about this and reviewing all of my own issues with trust I have come up with this….. T-Total, R-Resolve, U-Understanding amongst a, S-Solid, T-Two
T-Total; yes it takes total (1+1=2) cooperation from both parties to even have a chance at it again. It doesnt matter if you lost it or gave it. Without one you cant have the other. R- Resolve; work together to first communicate the issue, then as a joint effort work to resolve the issue. If there is no resolve there can not be anymore trust because the problem will always be waiting to show its ugly face. U- Understanding; Not only do you have to resolve the issue and communicate, but you have to understand that right or wrong, both parties have something to be accountable for. You may feel like you did nothing wrong and it was totally that persons ignorance that made you take your trust away. That may be true, but you still have to accept and be accountable for you. Understand its not a me thing, its a we thing. S- Solid; Strenth is superior to weakness in this. T-Two; its 1+1=2. Not you, them, and everyone else.
Maybe this works maybe it doesnt; it only my theory……trust me on that one!
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